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Why DO good girls love bad boys? This is the question that every good guy wants to answer. First we need to analyze the term “bad”. The term “bad boy” is misleading. No woman really wants a man to mistreat, abuse, or disrespect her. We want the cute luggage without all the heavy stuff inside…the bad boy image without the bad boy drama.

What we want is someone passionate. That being said, there is a thin line between a passionate person and an anger management candidate. Many women cannot or will not see this line and that’s where the confusion starts. Many a woman will see a man in a jealous rage and confuse that with passion. Passion can be described as intense, powerful emotion. So yes we want a passionate, intense man. A man that will love hard, get angry about issues he opposes, and fight fiercely (not necessarily physically) to keep us. But we need to be careful about which emotion the man is intensifying on a regular basis. If anger is the prime emotion, that’s a problem. Personally I’ve never wanted a “bad boy.” I was always more inclined toward the passionate man…

Mystery is another key ingredient in the bad boy recipe. Some of us like the idea of unraveling this incredible puzzle that is a man. I’ve always liked the quiet, brooding type. I find that those that are quiet tend to have more to say…they think more…I like thinkers. Aside from the mystery, there’s also the history. What kinds of things has he been through…has he gotten over those things…if not, can I help?

Passion is a double edged sword. My advice to women: know the difference between good passion and bad passion. Look for a man who is intense about his goals, his hobbies, and his loved ones. Note: A man who disrespects ANY woman will disrespect EVERY woman, including you. My advice to men (all the good guys of the world): Sometimes we women (not all of us) don’t see what we want quite clearly. Be patient. But don’t wait to too long for that woman who has her eyes on the bad boy in her life and can’t see your potential. There are plenty of women out there looking for a good (passionate) man. Note to ALL: A little good mixed with a little bad goes a long way…No one is perfect and no one wants to be with a “perfect” person. 2 parts sugar & 1 part spice makes for a very happy couple & LOTS of sex