Comments on: What every woman should know about internet porn

By: jessi

jessi — Sun, 30 May 2010 06:52:28 +0000

I just want to know why men hide porn and cant be honest about it. Here is an idea, watch it with us instead of hiding it! To hide it and to lie when caught is deception. Maybe if men could learn to talk to us a little we might understand and be more open. I have offered to watch with my boyfriend but he refuses and just keeps hiding it. This makes me mad when it comes up on the computer and then he lies about it. Also, I lay beside him every night, I am sexy and very sexual. I do anything he wants so why? Why does he still need to jerk off to porn? Can anyone help me understand? It does hurt my feelings and makes me feel like I am not enough for him. I get tired of trying so hard to please him enough to not go behind my back and hide porn. When confronted about it he gets mad, yells and acts like a real shit, then of course everything becomes my fault. But even then, he cant tell me why he does it.

By: Avonlea Montague

Avonlea Montague — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 03:06:25 +0000

I’m a little behind, but I’d like to make a comment to Markus.

As a Mormon (Don’t stop reading now!), I saw that you commented that Mormons and other “weird cults” think sex is wrong. Sex is absolutely NOT wrong. If it was, it wouldn’t have been given to us. The problems arise when our sexuality is abused and used wrong; pornography does not make your boyfriend or girlfriend feel good; if you have to hide it and lie about it it’s obviously not something you should be partaking in.

Secondly, it can become an addiction. Who wants to be bound by an addiction? And if you’d like to do a quick Google search, Markus and anyone else who feels pornography is acceptable either solo or in a relationship, look up a quote by Charles Manson… even he warns against looking at pornography. He says that it is the one thing that led him to feel so numb that he could kill. It’s a little extreme, but f or the sake of you and your loved ones, why take the chance?

By: mommamia

mommamia — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 14:41:02 +0000

Bill- A “harmless” activity is in the eye of the beholder. To me, it is not harmless. It hurts. It makes me, a bright, sexy, usually self confident woman feel as if I am not enough. Had I known that my DH was as into looking at porn/other women in the beginning, it would have been a deal breaker. Now…. what can I do except tell him how I feel and hope that he respects my feelings enough to stop. Truth is, I feel disrespected. Because he is taking my feelings and saying “I don’t care how if it hurts you, I’m gonna do it anyway.”

I don’t really think I’m asking too much. Perhaps others disagree. There comes a point when you have to say…. what is this worth to me? If you viewing porn is worth losing her over… there’s your answer. If his viewing porn is a dealbreaker at this point in our marriage… there’s my answer. Same measurements can be used with your make-up and skirt example.
One person’s feelings ALWAYS get put first when there’s a disagreement. It’s usually the person who feels the most strongly about the issue.