I use Firefox on Linux and one thing I refuse to do is remove any part of my browsing history. I get pop ups too (not as bad as they can be) *but* because not all pop ups are evil. I can sympathize on a few points, e.g., my wife walked into the home office the other day and saw me looking at something that wasn’t embarrassing but something I wouldn’t have wanted to get caught viewing. I use the RSS live link function in Firefox on Reddit, and descriptions aren’t exactly clear most of the time. I showed her how I got there and she laughed *but* I could have ended up in the 3rd degree otherwise. I can understand and woman should too. Thank god I have a good and understanding wifey

PS. Pop-ups are good for some things. e.g., write a comment on this site and hit preview…

I second what “martin” says… I mean I know both guys and girls alike, myself included, that look at porn, but only few of them actually look at porn REGULARLY.

I’m afraid I have to disagree. What with being alive and all, I happen to come into contact daily with human beings. Approximately 50% of these humans are male, and I can say with certainty that at least 90% of them look at pornography regularly. Interestingly enough, about 10% of the females do as well. I strongly believe that almost all men, and some women, with an internet connection look at porn regularly, but far fewer are willing to acknowledge it.

Also, keep in mind the difference between “normal” and “common”: playing professional football is not considered “abnormal,” but far less than a tenth of a percent of the American populace does it. Similarly, even if the vast majority of men didn’t look at pornography (which, I would point out, is disproved by the mere existence of the porn industry), it would still not necessarily be less normal.

No, what’s not normal is not looking at porn. That’s usually caused by some kind of abusive upbringing, such as your parents forcing you into some kind of cult like christianity. It’s normal and natural to be interested in sex and sexuality. To not be interested is the real sin. There is no god, there is no afterlife, so give your weenie a tug and be happy about it.

Normal is a funny word. People use it to accuse others, justify their own beliefs, and many other crazy things like that. Normality is many different things. There are lot of different norms, one of which being personal norms. Porn is not normal to everyone, but just because porn does not fit into your opinions of what normal is, that does not give you a good reason to go out and judge those who do think it is normal.

Before you judge someone on their porn viewing, ask yourself these questions:
1: How is this changing me. I know some women might go “my boyfriend doesn’t love me” but think a little more than that. If you did not know about his porn watching, would your sex life change any? Is he cheating on you because he watches porn? Is his porn viewing really THAT bad to you? Unless he compares you to the women he sees, forces you to watch it against your will, needs it while he is with you, cheats on you or any thing along those lines, I bet that it is because you have a problem with it, that is what is causing trouble in the relationship… not him.
2: Is it right to apply my personal norms to others? Sometimes yes. If you feel that guests at the dinner table should ask to be excused before getting up, that is one thing. Asking someone to change a way of life, a hobby, or their happiness, that is a completely different thing. Just as you should not force your partner to change his spiritual beliefs, you should not ask your partner to change his moral beliefs. If you do not like it, more than likely, you are the one causing the problem, and you should deal with yourself before you deal with him.
3: Am I seeing this through his eyes at all? Most women who get mad over their partners porn watching fail at this question badly. They find out, they freak out, and they are 100% right. They do NOT stop to think, “I wonder how my partner feels about this” or “I don’t agree with it, maybe I should ask questions about how he feels while viewing porn before I jump to conclusions.” You have every right to be mad, but he has every right to explain himself.
4: Is this really love? Chances are that if you really get that mad, you are not satisfied with the love you have. If you truly feel in love, connected, and trusting, you would not be this upset. You may blame him for not being the ideal that you always wanted, but how do you know that you are not his ideal as well? In a good relationship, both parties try to understand the other way of thinking, compromise, and work things out.

Everyone has their norms, and no one has a right to judge other people on it unless it directly conflicts with their happiness. On the subject of being happy… if you really cared about your boyfriend instead of yourself, wouldn’t you want him to continue doing what makes him happy?

I agree with Krystyna comments

I also agree that 90% of men probably look at porn but won’t admit it.. i fit in this category.

reading these articals i take away a womens point of view: looking at porn is a sexual act, if you participate in a sexual act without your mate a female may label this as cheating.

although i understand that may be how some women think i don’t agree with it.

now for my scenario.. i got caught this has turned into a huge ordeal.

the random women i look at on the Internet.. they are characters, i don’t care who they are i don’t care about any thing except how they look on my computer screen so i can look and then carry on my day without thinking about sex every 5 seconds because i haven’t had any.

is this cheating.. apparently thats debatable but i would say no.

should this break up a marriage or a relationship, a woman might think so but reading this suggests that maybe this woman doesn’t really love me at all maybe this is a way out for her.

do i think that my mate is better or worse than this person.. actually better.. thats why i’m with her and i’m not chasing strippers and hookers because thats basically who you see on the Internet posing.

is this act wrong.. yes. i’m bad sorry, just because i fit in to that 90%/normal/average doesn’t mean its right.

so it’s hard for me to react to this without an understanding, i cant be mad i did it to her right? not really but ok ill just go with that. so my reaction is full of sorries and how can i make it up to you to which she replies you cant.

so whats going to make her feel better? i don’t know, she thinks dwelling on it will she’s trying to find some answer. i’m embarrassed about this jut her and i talking about it… now she’s telling her friends about it. so now i’m mad my/our personal life is being exposed for her to feel better about her self.

and she threatens or perhaps does say she’s going to talk to her X about it, or for the sake of revenge just go talk to him.

so i’m left now angry, embarrassed, and thinking she doesn’t really want to be with me.

Men have a brain and so they can use some element of self control when they are in a relationship and especially if their partner feels bad about them looking at porn. Yes wow! sometimes you have to make sacrifices and changes when you are in a relationship. Men need to grow the fuck up.

I think we all should realize that the effects of porn watching can be as individual as finger prints. The reasons for watching can be lack of a partner, the wrong partner, desire to control, etc. etc. What really matters is how it affects your life and relationships.

If your relationship suffers because of a porn addiction then either the porn or the relationship has to go. Unfortunately many men hide porn use. When they are finally found out, as is always the case eventually, the destruction of trust is pretty much assured.

Trust is much more than will he or won’t he do this or that. From a woman’s point of view there is now no security in what the man says he feels. She won’t believe that he is attracted to her or that she can feel secure in their sex life. He has hidden a substantial part of himself from her.

I encourage couples to honestly discuss porn use before making any commitments. Many men insist “it is no big deal”. In a relationship it has to be “no big deal” to BOTH partners.

Although men will find this hard to accept porn almost always causes emotional impotence. Pretending doesn’t make it so guys.

Pornography acts upon the brain just as a chemical drug does. This is proven fact. It becomes addicting. When the stimulation wears off a newer harder core version is needed to get the “high”, or in this case the erection.

Women (and men if the case may be) should be rightfully upset if a partner is expressing that this is “normal” behavior.

Here are a couple links if you don’t believe me. One by a well known male who has written on this subject and another by medical professionals who know the workings of the brain:

http://www.drjudithreisman.com/archives/2005/12/senate_subcommi.html

http://www.savethemales.ca/000535.html

Humanity has gotten along just fine all these thousands of years with out this garbage. The human body both male and female are quite beautiful in their natural nude states. Much art throughout history depicts nudity in a healthy lite.

Its only empires in decline that stoop to the level of today.

The grotesque nature and degradation is quite obvious.

There is nothing about this that is “free speech”.

It is purely a profit industry that “hooks” the unwitting and brainwashed souls.

Once the stimulation no longer creates the “high”, or erection, more harder core material is needed.

Read the above links. They are eye openers.

Pornography is hate. Its a play on your central nervous system as well as your dignity as a human being.

Henry Makow:

“HARD CORE PORN: THE UNDEFINED HATE CRIME

If a pipe were spewing untreated sewage into our streets, we would stop it. But hard-core pornography does this on a psychic level on a much larger scale, and somehow we are helpless.

A swastika graphitti or the epithet “nigger” are considered “hate crimes” yet every day millions of men receive offensive email offers to extend their penises or watch 14-year-old Sue get sodomized. That is considered “free speech.”

Hard-core porn is anti human. It is hate. But anything that is prohibited assumes an undue importance. I’d rather curious males investigated and were disgusted and bored.

There is a difference between hard-core porn, which is tedious and sick, and tasteful female nudity, which can be a temporary substitute.

The key is to grow beyond it. The temporary substitute should not become a permanent one. It should not interfere with finding a mate.

Pornography makes us see women in purely sexual terms and obviously this affects how we treat them and how they respond to us. “

I’m a little behind, but I’d like to make a comment to Markus.

As a Mormon (Don’t stop reading now!), I saw that you commented that Mormons and other “weird cults” think sex is wrong. Sex is absolutely NOT wrong. If it was, it wouldn’t have been given to us. The problems arise when our sexuality is abused and used wrong; pornography does not make your boyfriend or girlfriend feel good; if you have to hide it and lie about it it’s obviously not something you should be partaking in.

Secondly, it can become an addiction. Who wants to be bound by an addiction? And if you’d like to do a quick Google search, Markus and anyone else who feels pornography is acceptable either solo or in a relationship, look up a quote by Charles Manson… even he warns against looking at pornography. He says that it is the one thing that led him to feel so numb that he could kill. It’s a little extreme, but f or the sake of you and your loved ones, why take the chance?