I have dated a single Mom. #3 happened to me. Never again!

I have been totally alone for a few years and sometimes it really bites that I’m like the only dude in this town who isn’t getting any. But it’s a hell of a lot better than being mixed up with a chicks who has kids!!!

I disagree with everything wrote above – yes it might happen with a few single mothers, but not all. I was a single mother of 2 when I met my partner 12 months ago, I went on every date he invited me out to, as well as watching a DVD at mine every so often. He moved in 8 months ago and welll read what I do, I get up early take the kids to school whilst leaving my partner to have a lie in, come back make him breakfast in bed, whilst he is eating that I wash everyones clothes and iron them – including his, when he gets in the shower I wash his back for him, then we go out for a coffee, we come home and I make him x amount of teas and coffees through the day, make his lunch, and everyone’s dinner, run him a candle lit bath at night and do all the tidying up. I do that every day for him – as well as running my own business. I give my kids 100% attention and my partner gets the same. As for paying things for the kids, when he offers I tell him thats thoughtful of him but he doesnt have to, I never ask a penny from him. And on top of that all his sexual needs are met – more then what your average single woman would do!

Shireen, you can disagree all you want, but the truth is the truth. I have dated 3 single mothers and in each case these #1 #2 and #3 happened.

I mean really, are you telling us that your man comes BEFORE your children? Really? I don’t believe that!

You’re just in denial because you’re a single Mom and can’t deal with reality. Sadly, this is the case with far too many women.

How narrow minded you all are! I am a single mother. My time is not too restricted because my daughter is with her father every other weekend. My family is involved, I go to college, and am able to multi-task being a great mom and having a social life. I wouldn’t dream of EVER asking a guy I was dating for help! Whoever these chicks are that you’re dating would probably suck even if they weren’t mommies. To each their own, but I think it’s sad that their giving the rest of us a bad name. We are not all part of this category.

I’ve dated five single mothers, and they all sucked. They were clearly hunting for a fool to get turned into an emasculated ATM.

The last one would scream and fight with me for hours. Anything, no matter how minro, would trigger her into rages. She was crazy. No matter what I did for her, no matter how patient and kind and generous I was, it was never enough.

Her 4 teenage kids were the spawn of hell, spoilt, rude whining little shits who trashed the house into a pig sty, and openly treated me with contempt.

She borrowed $30,000 from my father to invest in real estate, then spent it all dining out everyday and buying her brats lavish, expensive gifts. For Christmas, she bought them not one, but THREE trees, one of which was huge, and all-new decorations.

She continually treated me like crap, and then would say how much she loved me. Talk about mind games. During our relationship, she insisted that I marry her, buy her a ring worth at least $25,000, have a child with her, pay for her half of costs for her kids (while her ex paid the other half through child support), max out my credit card and loan it all to her. She also demanded that she be a co-signer on my bank account, but she wouldn’ reciprocate.

After 7 months of misery, verbal/emotional/mental abuse, and madness, I told her I couldn’t take any more and had to move out. She threatened to call the police and file false charges against me, have me thrown in jail, change the locks, and keep all my belongings. I told her it was over. Then she cried and begged me not to abandon her. I left anyway and am glad I did.

After I left her, she ended up filing bankruptcy for a third time in her life, lost her home to foreclosure, and never paid my father the money she owed him.

I would never, ever get involved with a single mother again as long as I live.

And regarding #4, if that was ever done to me, that arrogant black-robed dictator would disappear in a hole in the middle of Death Valley.

Im a single mom of three. I dont have baby daddy drama. According to my parents I put my boyfriend b4 my kids. You men some of you should just pat urself on the back. Its articles like this the reason I cant find a decent guy out here. Sooner or later ur gunna say the same about your ex-girlfriend after you done had ur way with her.

What about writing an article about how only single men think of single moms as a sex goddess! HOW many times have i had men come up with that one?

Women can sugar coat it all they want but at best you’ll be 2nd place. Now if the fathers still around and she has a career then count on 3rd or 4th. Number 3 is the definetly true. My ex was a single mom and she told me that “I’ll always hold a special place for him (the dad) in my heart because he gave me something so special”. He’s so special that he doesnt work, doesnt pay child support and lives on his brothers couch and has been for over a year. It’s certainly not worth the trouble ladies. Go back to the men who knocked you up because they’ve already planted their flag.

I disagree….Yes, there are many women out there where I could totally see that happening to some men. However, there are single mothers out there who are actually sane and can balance their carrier, child(ren), and dating. I’m a single Mom….I fell in the category of the guy was an ass. However, in all fairness, we were 16 when I got pregnant and 17 when I had my daughter. He left me when I was 3mo. pregnant. He’s not in the picture. Has seen my daughter 2x in her entire life and she was 1mo old. She is now 9yrs old. I still have contact with her father (very minute, roughly 5-8x a yr). I have put myself through college, started a carrier, and have managed to date. I have always put both my, now, fiance and my daughter equally 1st. Yes there are times I need to go do things for her. However, I have always had ample time to got out with him. I take care of all the “household chores” and he does dinner. I NEVER asked him with my daughter (money wise or anything else). He would volunteer and I would graciously decline. I would never in a million years dream of screwing him over. I do not collect child support from her “biological” father. I was also the one to tell my fiance that I wanted a prenup. and to specify that if we were to get divorced that he would not be financially liable for my daughter. We have always had plenty of “alone time”. We go on vacations alone and do family vacations. I don’t feel it’s fair to lump “single mothers” into one large group. There are those of us “single mothers” out there who arent out to screw a guy over, be shady, or put someone in 2nd place. There are those of us “single mothers” who put the guy just as equal, go out of our way to make the guy feel more “comfortable” in the relationship with the child. Tables turned…I have a friend who is now a single father…mother of the child passed away….so is it going to be the same for him…women shouldnt date him ’cause hes a single father? Or will you say that “that would be ok”?

I disagree with everyone I was a single mother for two years because I couldn’t find a real man that was mature enough to be around my little girl but then I met my now fiancée and he’s perfect my daughter loves him and he has completely claimed her as his own she is now daddys little girl infact now we have another little one of our own and one due in August but my point is I don’t believe that this blog should have anything to do with never date a single mother if your a mature family oriented guy that is anything besides just self centered and scared to put a precious innocent little child before yourself maybe you should just be single and not have kids of your own because a mother will always put a guy after her children yours or not and if you find one who doesn’t then you had a baby with the wrong person so really if your even looking at these and believe that its a big NO to dating single mothers why don’t you just remember that you can’t possibly be a mature man yet because it may take a man to raise his own children but it takes a real man to except a child into your life that isn’t biologically yours and get over ever thinking that any women in her right mind will ever put
her man before her children so guys maybe if your as smart as you think you’d realize that maybe a single mother is better then not atleast you know ahead of time weather she would make a good mother to your children…Correct?

This is spot on…I have had many women with this status pass through my life in recent months. Most of the time they have no time to develop a relationship, look at you for your “meal ticket” potential, and put on a great front to hide the fact that they are ‘ok’. Security…that’s what they want, they are in love with the idea of you, but not in love with the real you.

Take this advice, stay away,,,,its one thing for them to be divorced, another to have a child. Too many women are “independent” with thier baggage, like the kid is some sort of fashion accessory or amazing feat….

The majority of these women only needed a sperm donor. You are expendable to them! Trust this dude’s advice.

dated 2 single moms.. NEVER AGAIN! NEVER! The WORST years of my life. I got on well with the kids too. Then the women gets jealous of that.. and starts to use the kids against you. Thats ONE of the many problems.. gentlemen.. I BEG YOU.. Dont do it.. My hearts for the kids I had to leave becoz of the psycho/immature woman..I still remember all their BDays and think of them.. I miss them, but cant go near them coz of their mothers. If your single mom takes anti-depressants or goes to shrinks.. for any reason.. RUN even faster.

WOW reading too much into love buddy, get over yourself and your paycheck!!! If you are not the daddy then leave if you can’t handle the single mom, we are very self sufficient!

Did you ever think that she enjoys your company? Obviously you have bad communication otherwise you would not be writing these stupid questions.

Leave, you would be doing HER and her kids a huge favor.

It doesn’t matter if she is a single mother or not. That was about how much you could love her. Grow up, have a big heart! How single mother can be categorized the same as drug addict or ex-con? That’s stupid. I married to a man with kids about 12 yrs ago and NEVER thought of none of that nonsense. I admire his responsible action and love for his children. Moreover, I do respect him as a good human being.

i am in a relationship with a single mother, her daughter is 10yrs old.My problem is how to communicate with her daughter. sometimes we argue that i don’t communicate with her daughter well. My partner expect me to be a father to her daughter . can somebody give me advice how to be a step dad.anyways i am also mix up with this issue because i think that not all single mothers don’t have time for their partner.My partner always makes time for me and i appreciate that a lot. She is a super Wife and a mother at the same time. On the contrary i think that a single mother will always have an issue about their past so still think about ” what if”. in my ending comment you have to just use your heart in a situation like this and your mind comes second. Love is blind they say and i always do that……..i love without thinking….. i love you so much bea…..

I don’t have any kids and I’ve dated about 3 or 4 girls who were single moms and I was extremely lucky to escape every single of them. Otherwise, I would be suffering an extremely miserable existence being a dad to someone else’s children and, quite possibly, never having any of my own.

My children (if I have any, I’m still deciding) are going to be new and fresh from my own semen, not old and used from someone else’s.

And if any of you single moms have a problem with that, feel free to send me your lovely little hate mail cause I love reading it.