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Seriously, are there any nice guys out there? Ladies, this weekend when you head out to the bars with your girlfriends – in your cute stilettos and sequined tank-top that shows the perfect amount of sexiness – don’t let the boys ruin your night. There’s no need for heart-broken sob stories when you can have fun flirting with the gorgeous bartender for free midori sours, rock out on the dance floor with the chicks, and laugh at the pathetic guys who stare at you as you taunt and torture them till they fall over and grovel at your pedicured toes.

Nancy Pina, a former matchmaker, relationship expert, and the author of, “The Right Relationship Can Happen,” says: “Women need to wait for the right one and stick to their standards, instead of giving in to all the wrong men, which causes an endless cycle of bad relationships.”

It’s better to wake up every morning in an empty bed in your cotton pajamas, than to wake up naked next to some guy you went home with just because you didn’t want to feel lonely at night. It’s better to blow out the aching number of candles that grow every year to illuminate your birthday cake just with friends, than to argue with your jealous boyfriend because he thinks you’re too drunk and accuses you of flirting with every single guy at the bar. It’s better to gossip on the phone about why he’s with that hideous beast who can’t even match her shoes to her outfit, than to sit on the phone for endless hours talking to your boyfriend, who is on the other side of the country, asking: “What are you doing?” “Nothing, you?” “Yeah me too,” until you both fall asleep.

As many of us experience these worthless relationships that go nowhere, we pressure ourselves to find “the one,” but love is something that can’t be forced. There’s no point in trying to figure out who “the one” is right now, because there is nothing to figure out; “the one” will come when it is time. If you don’t think “the one” is living in this town, you’re probably right. If “the one” hasn’t found you yet, which is how it should be anyway, then it means you’re not ready, says Pina.

Men may be a difficult species to understand and live with, but women, we need to stop blaming them for everything. According to Pina, in order to have healthy relationships, we need to pay attention to our relationship cycles and evaluate the type of men we are attracted to. If you’re letting guys break your heart over and over again, maybe you should go for someone you aren’t initially drawn to. So maybe you aren’t attracted to the short guy with the greasy slicked back hair and shiny silk polyester shirt who dances all alone, but he could be a thousand times better than the shaggy-haired rock star, or the tall dark and handsome football player, or the hot Abercrombie model-looking socialite that all the girls drool over and all the guys want to be friends with. Sometimes the most valuable treasures are found in the most unexpected places.

Still, if all men seem the same right now, believe it or not, this world is full of such a variety of flavors from us to choose from. So, wait for the right choice to come along. We deserve men anyways, not boys – let them grow up first.