You need to set boundaries with him. I have been, recently, in a similar situation. Even if it’s hard you need to talk to him about the akward or uncomfortable things that have been avoided in this. You need to let him know that you still have feelings for him and that maybe you need a little more space to clear that up. I’m guessing if he is still sticking around he may still have some feelings for you too. My personal solution to this is to talk about it because in the end both of you will understand each other better and get these unneeded stressors off your chest, which will also hopefully help you move on to something new and hopefully better, not saying he is a bad guy, but if it ended there is probably someone out there for you that is more compatable. I hope this helps.

I am totally F’d up… I’m probably older than most of you… Married, Divorced, Met my current wife in 96′ she was a cashier and a f\t college student. Seems she forgets our relationship… she was a virgin… We talked about marriage… I proposed to her in 2000 before she went away for med school… and we married in 2005. There were times before the marriage break up almost happened… she blames me for making her marry… Says she felt sorry.. She has had a couple of improvments in her looks she bought (I always accepted her looks because thats who she is..) She on the other hand is shallow and it has taken a toll on our relationship.. All her insults started to effect my high sex drive… (It got to where taking matters into my own hands would pacify things… ) she finally decided to break our commitment with divorce… However I belive in working it out and am showing positive results. (many people see me as an average american) the thing is… she sthe bread winner … and everyones telling me we should work it out… Shes trying to go with the flow.. her sister is getting a divorce too.. the people who say we should work it out say I should get everything financially that I can… we divided the liquid assets down the middle.. theres also 401K shes paid into- money that would be split and is still considered in divorces… then theres the alimony… The truth is I don’t want it… I don’t want to split up… I feel the need to work at it…even if it takes professional help.. the pointis how do you leave something you don’t feel ready to leave? and restrain from getting the alimony, etc.. that could help this transition.. Especially when people who knw you tell you to get it.. (Of course her family will say what kind of man are you?) well, women, you wanted equal rights- riddle me this?