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Long Distance Relationships Can’t Satisfy Sexual Appetites Every group of friends has one of these; a friend that is always off to the side with their cell phone glued to their ear, talking to their significant other who is miles and miles away.

It’s time to explore some more serious matters when it comes to relationships – LOVE. How far does love stretch? Couples all across the country who are stuck in long distance relationships ponder the same questions: Is it possible? Can we make it work? Can I make it work?

I’m sure there are plenty of couples who can keep it together. They don’t mind the constant phone calls checking up on each other; phone calls just to watch TV and listen to each other breathe; or phone calls just to talk about nothing and fall asleep to wake up with digits imprinted onto your cheek; and don’t forget about those phone calls when you’re trying to get a little tipsy at a party:

“Who’s that?”

“Oh, nobody. I’m at party and it’s really loud.”

“Why are you at a party? God, don’t you want to talk to me?”

Seriously, how do they do it?

Too many couples, on the other hand, end up going through the most heart-wrenching pain ever, trying to cope with the loss of their other half and dealing with wandering eyes that are taunted by temptations everywhere they look – sometimes it’s just too hard to resist the shiny forbidden fruit that is making your mouth salivate when you’ve been deprived for so long.

How much do relationships rely on satisfying our physical needs and wants? Guys, can you rest at night when your Jessica Simpson look-alike girlfriend, who is going to the most notorious party school hundreds of miles away, could be meeting the Nick Lachey of her dreams at some sleazy frat social? Ladies, don’t you wake up from nightmares of wicked promiscuous girls begging your boyfriend to go home with them through their mysteriously wild stares and overwhelmingly intoxicating perfume? Sooner or later, they’re going to give in to their needs as a human being to be touched and loved, physically.

We all have to acknowledge the fact that our desires for being with someone include the desire to be physically intimate with another person. In fact, that could quite possibly top the list of reasons why we are all in search of that special someone to share our lives with – to fulfill our sexual appetites.

Dr. Alan E. Fuller, a member of Coachville.com and a founding member of the International Association of Coaches, who also happens to be an ordained minister, suggests sleeping with your partner’s t-shirt or underwear, or spraying your pillow with his/her scent, and keeping plenty of pictures around. Dr. Fuller says, “Feeding your senses with things that remind you of your partner while they are away, can help you remember him/her throughout the day and it can be a good way of feeling like a part of them is with you.”

But how much can a pair of Issey Miyaki-scented boxers really make your heart fall back in love with him, when your body has fallen so out of love and is yearning to be cuddled and feel warmth? How long can you go on closing your eyes at night, with her lacy lingerie clenched in your hands as you gaze into her blank eyes through the glossy photos, and your body aches for her touch?

Eve Hogan, senior editor of, “Chicken Soup for the African American Soul,” spokesperson for DreamMates.com, and labyrinth facilitator says couples really need to contemplate and evaluate whether it is worth being in a long distance relationship before they agree on being in one. If you don’t see yourself being with that person seriously for a while, then there is no point in putting so much time and effort into something like a long distance relationship which requires unconditional patience in order to maintain a healthy flow of communication.

Dr. Fuller also suggests setting aside a certain time of day that you spend talking to that person, and only using that limited amount of time to talk about what’s going on in their separate lives and planning visits to each other. This way, long distance couples don’t have to feel like they’re constantly on the phone updating their boy/girlfriend.

Long distance relationships are rewarding, if you can manage putting up with the mile-long list of restraints it puts on you; it can teach you a lot of discipline and your relationship could blossom into a beautiful love story.

But (and there’s always a “but”), unless you’re really planning on getting married to this person, it’s pointless. If you have any doubts and you feel like you’re barely holding on to the last strands that tie your long distance relationship together – whether it be because you met someone else, simply fell out of love with your invisible partner, or just don’t think long distance relationships work – get out of it now!