I want to let you know that ever since I had that same discovery, a short while ago, I have not been able to really recover within the relationship. I feel very distrustful and anxious, all the time.
BUT the truth is, it could go either way. I’ve been doing a lot of research on what kind of hacking porn sites can do, as they try to entice you into procuring a prostitute: and let me tell you, it is extensive. Once you sign on and pay any kind of fee, and they have your email address, you sign away all of your privacy. They can do anything with your information.
That said, men are difficult. They are wired so completely differently than us women. I think, for most alpha males, it seems the greatest challenge is to decide if they would prefer a real intimate relationship in which they are loved than chasing tail. Not because they are shallow, but because they are programmed differently. It is a great struggle. Not for all men, of course.
And for me, it’s so difficult to not take that personally. But somehow we have to conjure up a larger world/human view and understand that this is not a battle we can win, as it has nothing to do with us. Not to say we should let anyone cheat. Because that is shit. But we have to understand their struggle with compassion and greater understanding that they will EVER credit us for.
These are my thoughts. Scattered, though they may be. I’m a little all over the place. Apologies

Bypass all your rationalisations and go with your gut and whats your gut telling you. Not me, whats it telling you now?