One day you might find yourself jumping on your boyfriend or Husband’s computer to check your e-mail. As you’re typing in the URL you might see a long string pop up with curious words like, “filthy naked underage asian cheerleader sluts.” Maybe you “accidentally” click on this URL and suddenly you’re faced with naked midget grannies doing unspeakable things with vegetables. You might be horrified at what your significant other is looking at, but before you start packing your bags and dividing your DVD’s you should know he might not have wanted to see those pictures any more than you. Here are some things to keep in mind.

1. Don’t judge a book by its cover
   The link said asian cheerleaders but you’re staring at the horrific result of fresh zucchini day at the north pole. How is this possible? Well for starters most porn sites use re-directs to make money. He’s looking at a beautiful picture of Lucy Liu and decides he might want to see a little more so he clicks the link. Instead of the Lucy Liu at the beach he gets hide the cucumber with Patty and Selma. He might have been as shocked and disgusted as you, although being a guy, he knows this is a simple fact of internet porn. If you happen to see pictures of women and dogs, gay sex, or any other imagery you wouldn’t expect from your significant other don’t assume he meant to see it.
2. The Car accident factor
   So you see that he didn’t look at one, but fifteen pictures of a 600 pound woman jumping rope in her living room. Is this what he really likes? Well hang up the phone on Pizza Hut and put the twinkies down, the fact is he might have just gotten caught up in internet porn rubbernecking. He looks at those photos for the same reason you slow down around a car accident. Not that twisted metal and corpses turns him on, just a morbid curiosity.
3. Pop ups / Cookies (Glendale)
   This is the reason I’ve been sleeping on the couch for the last week. Many porn sites download cookies to your computer. They also can tell by where you are accessing the internet your GENERAL location. As any guy who looks at porn knows, if you click through enough you’ll get pop up ads for “Adult singles in your area.” If this was a normal ad I wouldn’t be using my coat as a blanket. The trick with this ad is they track where you are getting your internet service from and put the location in the ad. For example I live in Glendale, so for me the ad shows a sexy young woman holding what looks like a hand written card that says “Hi from Glendale.” This might be common knowledge for most guys, but try explaining that to a woman throwing dishes.
4. Auto saves to favorites
   Some porn sites even have links to click on to download a video. If the video extension is .exe instead of the intended video the user may be in a world of pain. This can allow porn sites to change your home page to a porn site, ad porn sites to your favorites, or do any number of different things. I had a bookmarked video game site re-linked to what looked like child porn. I had never seen the site before and lost my link to the world of warcraft forum I regularly checked out. If someone else saw it before I did I may have had much larger problems on my hands.
5. When in doubt, talk
   If a man has an internet connection, he looks at internet porn. This is a simple factof life but if you see something unsettling maybe you should talk to him about it before you make wild assumptions or accusations. Don’t just assume your loved one is a chubby chasing pedophile with an Asian fetish, talk to him. If you see something uncharacteristic of him, confront him on it, after all if you can’t trust him you shouldn’t be with him in the first place.