Anyway, I was curious as to what he was looking at, so I started just going through and looking for different links that could potentially be porn. From there, I got quite the surprise. There was sites related to meeting people in our area for casual sex and I saw that “someone” had searched for prostitutes in our area as well. Also, a telltale sign that it was him, is that he’s latino and is far more comfortable in Spanish, and some searches in google for prostitution and porn were in Spanish.

Of course I confronted him about this and woke him up at 4 in the morning because I felt I was completely justified. He was all pissed off at the beginning and said it wasn’t him and he wanted to go back to sleep. I was pissed so I didn’t let him and forced him to have this conversaton with me. We ended up talking for 4 more hours, and he was in tears at the end trying to tell me that he loves and that it wasn’t him. I of course am dead sure that it was him and now I don’t know what to do. During our talk he was trying to tell me that his brother was using his computer so it could have been him, but a counter poiint to that is that we moved from California a couple months ago, and his brother was using the computer then, but the sites are all in Saint Louis, where we live now. It’s not at all disconcerting to me that he looks at porn, although he says he doesn’t, but it bother me EXTREMELY me that prostitution was searched for in our area and that on craigslist adult gigs were also looked at.

I don’t really know what to think at this point (I found all this stuff 2 days ago), because up until now he has shown me a great deal of commitment and I had used his computer a lot before and there weren’t any porn sites at all. In terms of commitment, I go to school in Saint Louis was home on summer vacaton in California when we met. When I was supposed to go back to school he didn’t want to be away from me, so he came along, leaving friends, work, and everything else behind. He is the sweetest boyfriend I’ve ever had in terms of doing the little things for me. It just doesn’t make sense to me that it was him, but all the evidence supports the fact that it was. I definitely need help because I’ve been a complete wreck since I found all that. Since I don’t know anything about porn and if it is possible that he was looking at one site and then some weird link connected him to a singles site I don’t want to break up with him and end the best relationship I’ve ever been in.

I don’t know the authors name because I just found this site 10 minutes ago, but I would like for the author of “What every woman should know about internet porn” to give me some feedback because he seems to know about porn sites and how they work.

Thank you so much for your time and advice.

I am 26, own a home, single, serial monogamous, and also a future cat rancher. We work at a mortgage company in the underwriting department, and we all earn a good living. We all have sparingly different personalities. We come from different backgrounds and we live different lives. Except it seems we have one thing in common, we are all single.

One day, as I wait in the lunch room for the others to tear themselves away from their work to eat our crappy lean cuisines anticipating another boring conversation on how to find a husband. I decide to conduct an experiment. I told everyone as they walked in, I’m bored of our usual conversation and don’t want to talk about guys for once. We sat in silence for about ten minutes. My experiment was a success in my eyes. We really didn?t have anything to talk about except our last bad date, why we think he never called back or why neither of us is in a successful, lasting relationship. After the ten minutes, I said ok we talk again, since we have nothing better to talk about. After that, I have submitted to the fact that maybe the only thing I have in common with the girls I work with is this one subject: misbehaving boys.

So each of us, like usual, take our turns hashing and rehashing our thoughts on dating, relating and mating. While I sit there and listen to the non stop stories of how men suck. It dawned on me, why can’t four seemingly attractive, young, smart, obviously successful women find a good relationship? Are we too independent for our own good? Does our success level or income level intimidate men? And why can’t women that are so successful (some of us managers, including me at 24) apply what we know in business to relationships? If we can be successful in one part of our life, can we apply the same rules to another part and make it work? Speaking of work, do we work too much to find love? Is there more to life than finding a husband or even a boyfriend?

I have realized after five years of the same lunch time conversation, we will never figure it out. We will never know why he didn’t call for a 2nd date or why he loved me and then left me broken hearted. Or why we really know how to pick em? and maybe we?re not supposed to. Maybe there’s more to life than getting married, having babies, getting the SUV and getting a divorce and then repeating the process. When your focus is on other things then when are you going to get laid again or better yet, married? Does the tide of luck change and a good relationship just falls into your lap? Maybe we need to quit trying so hard and find the guy that will chase until he falls at our feet and begs us to marry him. Maybe we need to quit obsessing and find something less draining to put our energy in to. Maybe we are just crazy bitches and men can spot the crazy head cases a mile away and desperation is a hideous scent to them. I think it?s a mixture of all the above, and maybe in another 10 years we’ll still be having the same lunch time conversation, still won?t figure it all out and still be asking each other the same questions.

Why are we still single?

Recently we at TBRDR conducted an online survey on the topic of online dating. The questions ranged from, “What online dating services have you used?” to “How would you rate your own attractiveness?” From the information we gathered we were able to determine not only what dating sites both attractive and ugly people frequented, but what sites they had the most success with.

Dating survey results:

Great Expectations

“Hot people who date a little” “Great Expectations” was one of the least used by all people, although it was very popular with people who rated their attractiveness as “If I dress up I get free drinks” and “I could be a model.” The average user of the site went on dates with two different people they met through the site and rated their success as average.
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Ok Cupid
“Ugly people who don’t even date each other” “Ok Cupid” was used by more people surveyed than any other site although it seemed particularly popular with not particularly attractive people. The average user of OK Cupid rated their own attractiveness as a 2 to 3 on a scale of 1 to 7 with 1 being “I’m a swamp creature” and 7 being “I could be a model”. It’s interesting to note that although it was the most used by all people surveyed it had a medium to low level of success.
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Perfect Match
“Internet daters who date a lot”
“Perfect Match” was used by few people surveyed although it seemed to be preferred by both attractive and unattractive people who have used more than one dating site. It also had the highest percentage of dates resulting form use with the average person going on dates with five separate people. The average user of the site had an attractiveness of 4.5 on a scale of 1 to 7.
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True
“Where everyone goes for relationships” “True” was the most successful site in starting relationships. Of the people surveyed the average user of “True” met someone compatible and 30% are still in relationships with people they met through the site. (Nearly twice the average across all the dating sites.) “True” also had the largest range of attractiveness ranging from 2 to 7 on a scale of 1 to 7.

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Match.com
“Where people go for casual fun” People who used match.com went on more dates with different people than any other site. With the average user only going on two dates with each person they met and the average satisfaction level coming in very high it doesn’t take a brain surgeon to figure out why people go to this site.
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