But, perhaps more important than all of those things is one’s reasons for choosing a particular restaurant. Just because you go out to eat doesn’t mean you hate the food you have at home – maybe you don’t even have food at home, as is the case with many of us – nor does it mean that the food at home is gross or old or unattractive. For most of us, eating at a restaurant is about trying something new, or going back to an old favorite. You may be intrigued by that smoky ethnic place on the corner, or all you may really want is to be satisfied by a yummy, reliable pizza. Discovering what you don’t like to eat is equally important, and sometimes you may try food that makes you scream in pain, or gives you a rash, but at least you’ve learned your lesson and can avoid those foods in the future.

Alright, so let’s say your significant other is like your own personal chef, and your computer with access to all the internet’s glorious porn is like a giant buffet where you like to eat a few times a week. After a time, your personal chef may wonder why you keep going out to eat if there’s perfectly edible food at home. I find that they usually ask this if they’ve never seen a buffet, or have only been to one and it was really weird so they never gave it another shot. The benefits of a buffet are variety and accessibility, which also happen to be two of the things that draw most people to porn.

There are some negatives associated with buffets, of course – overeating being one of them. If you’ve stopped eating at home altogether and you spend all day stuffing your face at the buffet, then obviously, something is wrong with the food at home, or your palette has gone bad, and I suggest spending some quality time with your chef to try and resolve the issue.

However, if you only eat out a few times a week, but still prefer home-cooking, I say you have nothing to worry about. Sometimes you’re on the lookout for new menu ideas, or want to sample different flavors just out of curiosity. At times, you may want to share these new recipes with your chef, who may or may not like it… but don’t knock it ‘til you try it, right? But just because you eat kabobs one day and fried chicken the next doesn’t mean you’re screwing the person who made the food. …Unless you are, and then that’s wrong, of course.

If it’s one thing people need on a regular basis, it’s food. Most men will tell you they’ll die without food every day, and though some women choose to starve themselves, we all know everyone looks a little healthier and tends to be a lot happier when they eat really good food on a regular basis. Looking at porn is strangely similar. Instead of viewing it as a threat, see it as a healthy expression of sexual appetite. I won’t get into the whole psychology of porn viewing in men vs. women, but looking at porn isn’t like going out and picking up a hooker or going to a strip club. There is no personal interaction or attachment – it’s simply curiosity about a subject that our society usually tries to suppress. Being less judgmental about a partner’s interest in porn will not just make them feel less ashamed of their personal fantasies, but may even lead to a better understanding of your own desires, and thus a better overall sexual experience.

Bon appetite!

Once a cheater…always a cheater. What a bold, judgmental, bitter statement to make. But yeah, I’m gonna make it anyway, because it’s true. Now I personally have never cheated…well, there was that once…but is it really cheating if you end things with your significant other the day after it happens? I think not. Okay, so I’ve never really cheated, but to be extremely honest, I have been “the other woman” quite a lot. Why? Because it’s easy… the same as cheating.

The first time your man cheated, it was hard. It tore him up inside. He struggled with the decision. He was consumed by guilt and wondered to tell, or not to tell… But don’t worry, because just like everything else in life, practice makes perfect. Which leads me to my theory: Once a cheater…always a cheater. I promise you, every time he’s eaten that forbidden fruit, it’s gotten easier and easier. And once he got over that first guilt-ridden hurdle, it becomes second nature.

Another reason I think cheaters will always be cheaters is because by nature, people get off by breaking the rules. It’s addictive. Even the most prim and proper get a little rush by breaking the law. And once you’ve felt that rush once, you’ll want to keep feeling it again and again. Just like heroin. Yes girls…if your boyfriend has cheated in the past, you’re basically dating a heroin addict. He may give up the habit for a little while, but it’s called a habit for a reason. He’ll eventually fall off that wagon and go back to dippin’ that dick where it don’t belong.

Still don’t believe me? Have you ever heard of that little ‘ol saying: people don’t change. Well, cheaters are people. Therefore, come on…say it with me…cheaters don’t change. Once a cheater…always a cheater. Anyway you say it, you’re getting screwed. (And so is someone else.)

Even if you think you and your once-cheater boyfriend have the perfect relationship…even if you’re giving him so much sex he can’t walk…even if you cook him dinner and rub his shoulders to his heart’s content…he still wants more. If he knows his ex will fuck him…he’s fucking her. There’s at least 1 woman at his workplace that prefers one of those no strings attached relationships. He’s fucking her. If he’s done it once, he’ll do it again and again and again. Because it’s easy, it’s addictive, and people don’t change. How much more proof do you need?

Counter Point –

By Post Boy, Author of “Sometimes it’s OK to cheat”

As human beings we grow and learn. Yes in my youth I cheated on a girlfriend, I also shoplifted and did recreational drugs. As an adult I don’t steal, I don’t do drugs, and I don’t cheat. In high school I was a different person with different beliefs, but over a decade later I don’t see why you should punish the person I am for the person I was, especially since the only reason you know about my youthful indiscretions is because I’m open and honest enough to tell you. I’m not saying cheating is alright, I’m just saying that you should always hear a person out. Everyone has done something once in their life and regretted it, why make them pay for it even decades after the fact. There are people who break the law and become career criminals, just as there are people who do it once and learn their lesson. Why punish a person who learned their lesson about cheating possibly decades before even meeting you?